Becoming Aware of Defence Mechanisms
So you have decided one or more of your behaviours is a problem, not a preference – now what? We need to become aware of our defence mechanisms… What are Defence Mechanisms? There are a number of definitions including – “a mental process initiated unconsciously to avoid experiencing conflict or anxiety” ~ Google “A…
Helping and Enabling – Is There a Difference?
Is there really a difference between helping and enabling? Yes, there is according to the research. However, before we discuss the differences, let’s look at what “helping and enabling” are – Helping is: being there or doing something for someone that they CANNOT do for themselves, and Enabling is: doing something for somebody that they COULD or…
5 Critical Factors for Successful Change
Change is one of the few certainties in life. Many of us want to change different things in our lives or about ourselves, but that is not the challenge. The challenge (or issue) is we criticise and judge ourselves harshly for not making the change. And subsequently end up being in resistance with the present moment, which equates…
The Story of Two Wolves
Cherokee Wisdom – The Story of Two Wolves One evening an old Cherokee told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people. He said, “My son, the battle is between two “wolves” inside each of us. One is Evil. It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies,…
7 Myths About Change
The main reason women sign-up to coaching or mentoring or attend events with Habits for Wellbeing is to make a change or shift in their life. To shift from problem, self-defeating or draining behaviours to empowering and self-fulfilling behaviours (i.e. habits for wellbeing). These shifts could be made in different areas of a persons’ life including – Career…
5 Ways People Handle Anger
Anger is an emotion that every person experiences at some stage in their life. It is an emotion that can be misunderstood. One key difference when discussing anger is the different “ways people handle anger”. In this post I am going to discuss the following – What is Anger? How is Anger Expressed? Why Do We…
What Are Your Habit Loops?
Before we talk about “habit loops”, let’s make sure we are on the same page around habits. What Are Habits? Habits – “are routines of behavior that are repeated regularly and tend to occur subconsciously” – according to Wikipedia “a behavior pattern acquired by frequent repetition or physiologic exposure that shows itself in regularity or…
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